Questions About Save Marriage From Divorce After Cheating

Any regret after a divorce if cheating is involved?

A year ago I found out my husband was having an affair. He left the same day I confronted him and never came back. I filed for divorce six months later and our divorce was final last month. We have a 3 year old son together that I have full custody of.

During our separation, I asked many times for him to try counseling and to just try to give our marriage a chance. I was so blindsided by all of this. Our marriage wasn’t always perfect but I thought we were happy. He said he loved the other woman, who is married with two kids, and that “they were gonna make it work no matter what”, and “it isn’t just a fling”. I told him that if she had wanted to be with him she would have left by now and that if he would just let her go that we could save our family. He said he couldn’t let her go.

Our divorce is final. I lost the house because I couldn’t afford it without two incomes and now my son and I have our own little apartment. I am going back to school and have lost a ton of weight. I felt a lot of peace after the divorce was final. I know we will be okay.

My ex mother in law said that my ex has lost 50 pound and seems to be very depressed. She said that she thinks he finally realizes that she(the OW) is not as into him as he was into her and that she is not leaving. He told me about a week before the D was final that he wanted her but was not going to wait forever.

I know it doesn’t matter but it kinda sucks that this depression comes from his girlfriend not leaving her husband and not from losing his wife and son, who her rarely sees.

Is there a chance that he regrets what he did to us too? Would he tell me if he did? So much damage was done. We struggled with money when we were together and needed both incomes to cover everything. When he left he didn’t start depositing money back into our joint account (the one we pay bills out of) until a month later. He only gave a fraction of his pay but left me with all the bills. Even if he doesn’t regret losing me, wouldn’t he regret how he handled everything? It was like he didn’t even care what happened to us. He’s only 30, is that too young for a mid life crisis?

Like I said, I know it doesn’t matter anymore but it hurts to be so easily tossed aside…

I’m finally filing for divorce after 5 years of marriage, but need some advice?

I have put up with my husband’s lying, cheating, only to forgive him after pleading…enough is enough and in a few hours I’m heading to the court house. He hasn’t worked in almost 2 years, but he started a new job 3 months ago and now acquired a 2nd job. I have supported him like a ding dong for the past 2 years while he sits on his ass and does nothing, but crap. In any event, we have one child together and I have 2 from a previous marriage. He is wanting spousal support and I’m hoping to get Child Support for our 3 year old. I made about 50k last year, but coming July 5th; I no longer have a job. I don’t know what to do and I’ve been looking for a job that will pay our bills and I’ve cut out a lot of extras to save money. The past 3 months, he hasn’t even helped me with any expense at all! He’s hoarding his money and I’m done. Do you think that I’ll have to pay him SS and will I get child support if I made more than him? I’ve heard different scenarios and now a bit confused. I only have a 2 year Human Service Degree which doesn’t pay sqwat and I was an assistant Web Designer when I made the 50k last year…please help

Friend thinks make over will save her marriage?

My friend might be heading for divorce and is looking to me for guidance because i am getting a divorce my hubby cheated on me then i cheated on him in retaliation its messybut she wants my insight into the mind of a cheater.Her situation is she caught her hubby cheating on her.To be honest this is the only time she has caught him but i have been hearing stories about him from the girls at work for years.He claims he hates her that she has let herself go after the 2 kids,is lazy fat pig,stupid and that cha cha is too loose for him to get off in anymore?She wants to get a whole makeover just to please him new clothing, makeup, surgery boob job,lipo,nose job,tummy tuck, and even surgery on her cha cha to make it tighter?I dont think thats going to bring him back but she’s so desperate i dont know what to say? She’s willing to go broke ont this?
I am not sure if i should tell her all the rumors that have been going on about her hubby for years know?

Divorce-How to protect yourself from a lying wife in court?

A friend of mine is going through a divorce. His wife came here from Argentina. He married her and gave her citizenship and 2 beautiful girls. He has a 12 yr. old son. She cheated on him with at least 3 different men and decided to divorce him after he tried everything to save the marriage. They went to court and she cried on the stand, lied to the judge and said she can’t live with him, that he is verbally abusive and that she wants him out of the house right away. So the judge awarded her the house (starting Sept.) and for him to pay child support. When they got home, she laughed at him and told him in Sept. when she gets awarded the house she is going back to Argentina so he can’t do anything about it. Now, yesterday they got into an argument and she filed domestic abuse charges against him today. He has never hit her (although she has hit his son and verbally abused him) but he never reported it. How can she get away with all of this? If he secretly records her, that is illegal. Anything he can do to protect himself from this evil lady?

How can I save my marriage?

I recently came home after being away from home a long time. My wife would barely touch me, kiss me, and when we go to bed she turns away from me and says she is tired. She told me that she feels numb, and that she has no feelings for me anymore. She told me she didn’t think there is anything I can do to change the way she feels. Before you pass judgement on just know that for a long time I wasn’t a very good husband. I cheated, and I lied to her alot. I also had a bad prescription drug problem. I’ve been faithful since then, I don’ lie to her, and I somehow kicked my drug problem to the curb. We have a daughter together. I’ve never wanted to make something work so bad. It hurt me to know that she doesn’t love me anymore. She says she wants a divorce. I love her so much and don’t want to lose her, but I don’t know what else to do.