Questions About How To Save A Marriage From Divorce

How do I save my marriage from divorce?

My day keeps getting worse and worse. This morning I posted that my husband has been having an affair for a year and a half. Before that I never even knew we had problems between us. I always thought we had a dream relationship. He was always sweet, romantic, adoring, and I thought, devoted. Now I’ve come to learn that he filed for a divorce after work. He says he loves me but he thinks I have idealized him and that I am living in an idyllic fantasy of a relationship. He thinks I am in love with love and that I only want security, safety and stability and that I’m looking for a relationship to make me feel needed and rescued. He says he can’t be romantic ideal or give me a fairy tale and he can’t save me. I don’t understand. He loves me but he’s divorcing me? He’s cheating on me because he feels I put too many burdens on him by being idealistic? He’s just going to walk out on our daughter and me? I don’t want this. I want to fix my marriage. I want him to stay. I don’t know what to do. My lovelorn nerves are in shreds. I don’t know how to fix this. How do I fix this?
I don’t think it’s my fault in the slightest. But I still think we can work through this. I don’t see why this has to be the end. Yesterday my marriage was perfect and today it’s in shambles. I can’t accept that.

what does it take to save a marriage from divorce? he left 6 months ago but wants to come home after filing?

First of all he is a drug addict who got me hooked on the same drug. He stated that he wants to quit but that the only way he can do that is by coming home and getting away from his roommate who influnces him into doing cocaine and freebase. he also promise to be helpfull around the house and be more productive in our marriage….however all i have heard in the last 9 months is words but I have not seen any actions. How do i know that i can trust him again to get clean, be productive, loving, not controling, and trust in me.

Ideas on how to save my marriage from divorce. Real answers please!?

I have been married for almost 4 years now, and lately things have really started to go downhill. It Got really bad after we moved into our house. Details on that is my husbands mother has the loan to our house in her name and after 5 years allowing us to get our credit score back we are getting the loan and everything switched to our names. We pay the morgage and escrow now already, but legally our house is his mothers. She doesnt like me very much and has no reason not to like me. I have never done anything wrong to her. But she has convinced my husband that Im no good for him. He calls me lazy all the day because i do not have a job outside of my home. I have 3 children at home, and so as of the last few years I have been a stay at home mom.Which i guess in their eyes is not good enough. Anyways… she has been putting pressure on my husband to get me out of the house. she is holding this house over his head and its honestly working because he doesnt want to “screw” his mom over. Since January of this year nothing I do is ever good enough. As of may 26th he filed for divorce. And since then he has turned into a alcholic. I have been trying everything possible that I know of to get him to change his mind..i can tell he wants to give in and that he really does care but its almost as his mother flashes before his eyes and he objects to any thing I say or ask. I went to my lawyer yesturday bbecause i had no other choice. The clock has ticked down to its final second. Which as me not having a job i have no idea how im suppose to pay for this. His mother even paid for his lawyer!!!!
I truely can tell this is hurting him bad and the fact that he is losing 24/7 acsess to his kids. We are still intiminte with eachother and we still live togeather…. We basically do what the average married couple does. This all has torn me into a million pieces and im clueless on what to do at this point. So any ideas that you may have would be great, especially if anyone has gone through this situation. I dont want to lose my family, but I feel like im having everything torn out of my life and its killing me….. please help!?

Marriage & Divorce — help me to save my marriage from my wife’s nature. I am more worry about my kids.?

I have been married for 11 years. I have 2 kids. Both are under 8. Our life was good up to 8 years but after that my wife’s nature has been changed. First thing she doesn’t like my mom, dad and sister. Even if my parents do babysitter and most of the food preparation she always fight with them but I knew that my Wife is first to me then my parents so I have send my parents back to my country. Even if my parents call my house she always told me to insult them. Also if I call them then she always fight with me so I stop calling them.
Besides that my wife always tont me like you are dum,you don’t know how to happy me,she always bring issue of money in every topic like…because of more money you do this. She always told me that you are not capable of getting new good job even I work as a engineer and making more than $100000.She always working like boss and when ever we fight she never say sorry. I have to say sorry every time. Even if we both work I do more things then her.Pls Help me.

Marriage and Divorce?

My marriage is on the verge of a divorce. We are seriously considering it because all we do is fight. We have 2 small children (ages 5 and 6) and I am a homemaker. We are being civil about everything except how to “work it out”. He’s given up and I am on the verge. I would like to have one “last go” at saving the marriage for the sake of the children and our sanity.

Is there anything that I can do to save my marriage from divorce or is it doomed?

Counseling is out of the question.

What can I do to try to save the marriage or make it so he wants the marriage as well?

Serious responses only please. Thanks in advance for everyone’s help.
Counseling is out of the question because we’ve tried it before and tried to change, but we both went back to our “old ways” of doing things.

The reason for the divorce is that we just can’t get along. I don’t clean the house right and keep it presentable in case we have unexpected company. He doesn’t listen to what I have to say or listen to my opinions. I forget to do things that he asks (mostly in part to medication I am on for a disease I have) which ticks him off. He is hypocritical and has double standards. I “tune him out” when we get into an argument. He hates repeating himself (again, I forget things so I ask the same question 2 or 3 times, or he has to repeat something to me that I didn’t remember to do – calling someone, taking something to the office, etc).